OkCupid doesn’t have open messaging, meaning randoms can no longer message you before you two have matched. It’s genuinely overwhelming and I’d prefer to only be messaged by people I already gave the go-ahead to. (Bumble combat this by only letting women message first.)

“Under the new OKC I get about x5 as many matches. I send fewer messages and I receive higher quality responses. I believe this is all because of the requirement to match before messaging. Now women are required to seek out desirable profiles in order to interact with users on the site – just like the men. I also really like how doubletake has shown me interesting profiles that I wouldn’t have found with browsing .

I assumed that only annoyingly persistent men would dislike this change, but according to Reddit, a lot of ladies also Servicio de citas por video aren’t feeling it either:

This can be good or bad depending on how you prefer the conversation to start: I personally enjoy it, as one main problem with online dating in general is that ladies get harassed by men who flood their inboxes

“I don’t like it because I can’t tell if someone’s a creeper just from a quick glance at their profile. I either have to “like” people fairly indiscriminately to leave myself open to conversation, or I have to close doors on potential conversation that could be worthwhile. I was doing just fine having the block feature, or simply not responding to people who weren’t worth my time.”

Now that I think about it, that makes total sense – because now you’re basically forced to swipe right on anyone you *might* be interested in and it’s way more awkward to have to delete a match rather than just ignore someone. Luckily, OkCupid’s DoubleTake profile allows you to see a good amount of info on a person before you swipe, so you’re not about to match with people blindly (more on that later). If the closed messaging is the most annoying thing on the site, that’s not too shabby.

If you’re not getting the attention and messages you think you deserve, there’s an option to boost your profile to get you a full day’s worth of activity in just 15 minutes.

The Reddit community is actually huge on OkCupid, and while all dating sites receive their fair share of shit (Redditors do not hold back on giving their opinions), I genuinely feel like OkCupid has the most nice things said about it. (Or the least mean things. Close enough). This blog even put together a guide on OkCupid advice that Redditors have given over the past few years.

Surprise: The free version *isn’t* worthless

The site is basically fully functional with the free membership, and we give them props for that. Most dating sites make you pay to do literally anything besides signing up. However, if you’re feeling ambitious and want a little feature upgrade, OkCupid does offer two paid memberships: The A-List, which goes for $ for one month or $9.95 per month when you sign up for six months, or A-List Premium, which goes for $ for one month or $ per month when you sign up for six months.

Those prices won’t set you back nearly as much as another site would, and it’s nice that you’re able to test out the site for free before deciding to go all in. You’ll have to subscribe to the A-List for more premium features like getting rid of ads, seeing people who have liked you before you like them, read receipts, automatic boosts, and more. (You can see the full list of A-List and A-List Premium features here.) You can get a lot done on the free version, but you’ll probably look like a more trustworthy member if people know you’re paying to be on the site. Either way, it’s a total bang for your buck.